Wednesday, August 22, 2018

Homeschooling Concerns

Elizabeth mentioned a few concerns about homeschooling that are shared by many people. I've been asked about these more times than I can remember and I am always happy to answer them.  I can only speak from my experience.

Lack of healthy competition

We never experienced this maybe because my first children are twins. They are identical twins and have very different personalities.  One is a bit of a dreamer and one is very analytical.  Both were competitive with each other in all aspects of education.  The dreamer had to work a little harder to, for lack of a better word, beat her twin on tests etc.  And she did sometimes which made the analytical one know not to slack off even a little bit.  My third daughter was competitive wanting to keep up with her sisters (though she is 3 years younger).  My son was probably the least competitive in most subjects but excelled in math and piano.

Lack of companionship/peers

This is probably the biggest question that I am asked.  What most people aren't aware of is that there are (were anyway) thriving homeschool community/support groups with a vast number of activities for groups of children to do together.  In Northern NJ, our group had about 20 families at the time.  This NJ group belonged to a larger NJ group that had over 200 families.  They offered activities such as:



Science Labs

Activity Days

Some "semesters", group classes were offered (taught by one of the parents) at a local church.  There were classes in Art, Music, etc.  I taught classes in Creative Writing.

There were also different social events: picnics, beach trips, ice cream socials and so on

Some parents offered activities in their home.  I hosted and led Young Author Groups for 10+ years.  Our group had about 8-10 children and their ages ranged from 4-16. Once a month, the children would come prepared with something that they had written, read them aloud to the group, critique the writing, play educational games, and then eat snacks/play.

Many homeschooled children also are involved in church activities.  For example, my children all were involved in the AWANA program.  Then there is Sunday School, Youth Group, etc

Homeschooling Restrictive

I think homeschooling is actually quite the opposite of restrictive.  Because the teaching was done either one teacher to two students  or one on one with my other two children, the time spent on each subject (Math, Science, etc) was shorter because more could be accomplished.  There was time for exploring nature, working in the garden, art, and music.  They also had free time to volunteer.

I think I covered all of Elizabeth's comments.  I am always happy to answer any questions anyone may have.  I do not have all the answers but I am happy to help.


  1. Good morning! I came over for a visit from Stephanie's cute blog.
    Lovely blog you have here!
    Not only am I following you, but I also added your blog to my sidebar. Looking forward to reading your posts and getting to know you :)

    Have a lovely day.

    1. Kerin, I am so glad that you did! Thank you and I shall visit yours later today. Looking forward to getting to know you too!

  2. I applaud those who choose to homeschool their children. I teach high school and I've seen some home schooled students come into the school for their high school years at very different levels. One student I had could barely write - his parents told me that he didn't like reading and writing, so they didn't make him do it. On the other hand, I had another student who excelled in English composition and was at the top of her class. It's variable.

    1. Lorrie, there is a huge spectrum of homeschooling as well. I've known families that teach everything and I've known families that do not teach any history or science. (yikes!)

  3. I am retired from 31 year of public schoolteaching; luckily a wonderful district. With that said, I would have loved to have homeschooled. I think so much can be accomplished in a shorter amount of time. My only negative that I ever saw from kids that were not in public school was not those that were homeschooled, rather it was those who went to less vigorous private schools. Those were the kids that struggled when returning to public schools. Kids adjust very soon if they find a buddy no matter what kind of schooling they had.
    You made the case for homeschooling and I honestly hope my children will explore it with future grandchildren. Public schools even my once good one are led by too much outside agendas.

    1. Sandy, it seems as if the public schools very slowly went downhill (agenda-wise) when they removed the Lord's Prayer. I read in the news about all the transgender etc "science" and think oh my goodness. I don't know how this can happen. Unacceptable in my book.

  4. Hi Gina, I have read all three posts concerning homeschooling, I agree whole heartedly with all you have stated. I have so much admiration for parents who sacrifice to homeschool their children, the rewards are are so great, as you can attest to, with the success of your four children. do hope homeschooling will survive all of the obstacles that are before them, mostly the lack of commitment! There are so many things pulling families in so many different directions these days.
    Thank you for sharing.

    1. Sue, I agree. Sometimes there are just too many outside activities. There is no time to appreciate simpler things like reading a good book, exploring nature etc.

  5. Gina, I have read all three of your posts on homeschooling and I have to applaud you for sharing about why it meant so much to you to be able to do this. We took our two out of public school when our daughter was going into 7th grade and our son going into 3rd grade so that we could homeschool them. It is something that we've never regretted doing! In making our decision to do so, we'd said that we would homeschool until our church should start a Christian school...which they did one year later. I was involved with that school, teaching many grades, which was possible because it was a small school. In many ways I wish I had continued on with homeschooling our two. But I also am thankful for the opportunity that God gave me to give that education to other children. Thank you so much for sharing here.

    1. Dianna, thank you. What a beautiful ministry to work with the Christian School.


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