Friday, January 4, 2019

Do All Things With Kindness - Dealing with Rude Comments

My mother used to say that if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all.  I think a lot of mothers said the same thing.

I received a comment on my last post that threw me for a loop. I don't know if this person meant it to be unkind or just wasn't thinking. Now normally I would just delete it and forget about it. This comment came from someone who posts regularly on my blog. I am writing about it because I am hoping this person (who shall remain nameless) will think twice before saying anything similar to anyone else.


I have been writing about my Healthier Me Plan and trying to eat healthier. This person's comment basically stated "I've been thinking you need to lose weight after looking at pictures of you on your blog."

Ouch.

I have admitted that I'd like to lose a little weight.  Still, it isn't kind to tell someone that they need to lose weight after looking at pictures of them.

Please think about what you write before you write it.  If it's not nice (or kind), then don't write it.

22 comments:

  1. Well how disheartening!! I think you look beautiful Gina!

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    1. Arlene, I know I need to lose some weight but was a little hurt by the brash comment. Thank you though xo

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  2. Hello Gina, I went back to reread the comments and I am hoping that my comment didn't offend you. Upon reading it I can perhaps see how it might. When I said "I think I will have to change my eating habits this year. Ahh....Christmas....it never does wonders to the figure."......I most certainly did not mean your figure.......I meant mine, as I have eaten food that I wouldn't normally eat this festive season and I will have to eat a little less over the next few months. I most certainly did not mean to upset you and if I did I most certainly do apologise. ♥

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    1. I'll reply to everyone in a bit but I had to comment on yours asap, Kim. I am so sorry you thought for a second that I was talking about anything you said here or on your blog. No no no! You have always been kind and gracious. This particular comment was left on my blog and I didn't publish it.

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    2. Silly me.....I am so relieved that it was not my comment, Gina, that had upset you. I would have emailed you but for some reason or another your comments don't come through my email anymore. Thank you for your graciousness♥ Kim Xx

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    3. Kim, you can always email me at bylanternlight@yahoo.com ♥

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  3. Wow. That's unfortunate.
    Hugs,
    Lorrie

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    1. Lorrie, I wonder if she didn't mean it in a hurtful way.

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  4. What a mean thing to say! Gina I think you are lovely both inside and out!

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    1. Regina, thank you. It definitely was a strange comment.

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  5. That is not nice. There is no need for people to write unpleasant comments. Ignore.

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    1. Elizabeth, I agree. I was going to ignore it but then I thought maybe she didn't know how it sounded? I didn't want anyone else to get a similar comment.

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  6. I'm sorry you felt hurt by that comment. I don't like to delete comments either but I had to do that one day last week. The comment was ridiculous! lol And yours was too. I've been meaning to add in one of my comments how hard it is to lose weight when you are so close to your ideal weight....which I think you are! Wish we didn't care what others think or say! But sensitive people...like you and I...care more! Sweet hugs, Diane

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    1. Thank you for your kind words and hug, Diane. xo

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  7. Oh my...there are just rude people out there. I am with you...if you have nothing nice to say just leave it off.

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  8. Oh my goodness Gina, I never thought from any video or picture that you need to lose weight, I can't imagine anyone actually saying that. I think it is great you are sharing your new plan and I don't think it is ever a bad thing to try and eat right whether you need to lose weight or just trying to be healthier, I hope this doesn't cause you to stop your blog.

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    1. Thank you, Connie. It's all ok now. No worries about stopping my blog. I'm on a roll. xo

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  9. Oh dear Gina, I'm with you in not saying things to hurt others. Being unkind is so hurtful. You know that you're beautiful inside and out!

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    1. Kitty, you are too kind. You truly are beautiful inside and out. xo

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  10. My dear Gina, I tried posting a comment but I don't know if it went through so I'll post another. It's unfortunate that there's people out there that like to say those type of things. I've had a problem over at my blog with mean comments too. They've all come from the same person. She likes to challenge me on everything. I just don't publish her comments. It does bug me a little bit but I've gotten used to them and just try to brush them off. Your beauty shines from within. Keep shining Gina.
    xx Beca

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    1. Beca, I didn't see another comment. Thank you for posting again. Oh dear, that would be annoying to constantly have to deal with argumentative comments. Thank you. xx

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But oh! the blessing it is to have a friend to whom one can speak fearlessly on any subject; with whom one's deepest as well as one's most foolish thoughts come out simply and safely. Oh, the comfort — the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person — having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all right out, just as they are, chaff and grain together; certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and then with the breath of kindness blow the rest away. ~Dinah Maria Craik, A Life for a Life, "Chapter XVI: Her Story," 1859